Showing posts with label conversation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label conversation. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

When can you can interrupt someone in a conversation?


Interrupting someone while they are talking is not a polite thing to do. However, there are some situation we have to interrupt people while they are talking for a good reason. There are  seven situations you can interrupt someone while they are talking without making them get mad from you or think you do not have good manners.

1- Lost of focus:
when someone lost focus and started to talking  about something that is not related to the topic and you are busy  because you have an appointment with a doctor, meeting, or anything else but at the same time you really want to listen to their story in this situation it is your right to tell them to get to the point. In fact, the person who lose his focus in what he have to say is a person who want to tell you about something exciting happened to him.

2-Gossiping:
Gossiping can be negative in different ways even though many peoples do it. It is not right thing to do because the other person can not talk or defend themselves by gossiping you can injustice to the other person. That  is why it is better to tell the person not to talk about that person or change the subject. In addition, it is the best thing to do because talking about other people is not something nice or good to do and you have to know if that person talking badly about other people she/he will talk badly about you as well.

3- Talking for too long:
sometimes people keep talking about something boring and no one want to listen to it is like that person talking to himself,  you can interrupt the person so you can all enjoy the conversation and have fun time together instead letting the other person talking to himself not knowing that you are not interested in what they are talking about.

4- when their word become inappropriate to say:
The worst thing can happen when you have  nice conversation with someone or group of people but when a someone says words that is not appropriate to say or even to listen to in this situation you can talk and stop the other person to talk because this conversation might end in a fight or end good friendship. Other situation,  when someone talks about something really series and the other person makes a joke this can make the other person really angry or mad because it is not not nice thing to do, so you can prevent someone from getting angry by stopping a person continuing making jokes.

5-monopoly conversation:
when someone talks about the same topic and do not want to change it for example a person want to talk only fashion, sport, politic or other subject that people got bored from listening to . In this situation you can interrupt the person because you are not enjoying the conversation neither the other people are so this is best thing to do, by breaking on the conversation you can let other people talk about things they are interested in and everyone will have chance to talk

6- when no one understand:
when you do not understand what a person is talking about and find what he is talking about is confusing  do not interrupt from the first word you did not understand try to listen. however, when the person is talking about things to do or instructions you can interrupt to ask for more explanation so you can understand what  you have to do and not to get confused or mess the things up.

7- say something cheerful:
when someone is talking about something interesting you can tell them things that are cheerful like WOW, Great, Nice, Well done, or other words that person will like to listen to and would know you are interested on what they are talking about  but be careful not to say it too much because the person will be annoyed or he will think you are faking it, try to limit what you say. you can also you can show the person you are attentive by looking at their eye when they talk or move your head.

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Saturday, December 13, 2014

How to be interested instead of being interesting


"Nothing is interesting if you are not interested" by Helen Maclnnes. There are three ways that you can show a person that you want to know more about what a they are talking about by asking question to them about the topic they are talking about.

1) Asking questions to show the other person that you are interested to know more in what they are saying. In addition, asking more than one question shows that you are listening to what they are saying. In addition, when can you ask questions? when they person stopped talking because asking when they are talking is not polite and maybe the other person will forget what he was going to say, so try to be polite and ask question in the best time so you do not interrupt the person that is talking. moreover, some other questions you can ask the person that is talking,How did  you get into what you do?, What do you like about it?, What are you trying to accomplish that is important to your career (business, life, etc.)?,  If you were to accomplish that, what would it mean to you and what would it enable you to do?

2) Share your opinion about the topic, you can  your opinion and your experience about the subject because it will be occurred situation if the person was only talking about himself or his on opinion. Moreover, if you continued only asking questions, do not be surprised if the person asked you why you are only asking and not telling about yourself. Try not to put yourself or the other person in occurred situation so try to share your own experience and opinion to get involved in the conversation and to show more interest.

3) Another way you can summaries what the person told you, or just say the main things happened in the story. If you had an opportunity to ask for advice, people like someone asking for advice because it makes them feel interesting as well as wise.